Sexy Kali — The Debate & Outrage
Someone told me about this image of Sexy Kali that was shared by Armin Navabi, the founder of Atheist Republic. That is when I saw the image for the first time. Quickly, I could understand what got some of those Hindus outraged over a “Muslim guy”, an atheist doing that. I could see what had happened. I rarely try to reason with someone that’s religious, but again, let me give this a try. Armin’s idea behind this image could be different from my views, but I still expect you to read this, then come back at me.
To begin with, Kali, like Allah, Jesus, Rama, Krishna, Santa, and Snow White are fictional. If you’d disagree with this,
If, if, even if Kali were real, my friend, I have a few questions to ask you. What got you so outraged? What are you saying?
The way I see it, “sexy” is a compliment for man or woman. What’s wrong with someone calling anyone else “sexy”? Would you reacted this same way had that guy called Shiva sexy? I don’t think so. Now, are you telling me that Shiva, Rama, Hanuman, Arjuna, Krishna, Lakshman, and Vishnu can all look and be sexy, but Kali can’t? That’s gender bias! That’s misogyny. As a feminist, as a woman myself, I’d strongly disagree with you there and would like to call you out in your hypocrisy.
Next, you’re saying that by sharing that image, he hurt your sentiments because you see Kali as your own mother? Okay …
So once again, are you going to tell me that a mother can’t be or look sexy? A father can or cannot — that wouldn’t bother you, but a mother can’t look sexy? Again, misogyny! Why can’t a married a woman or a mother look sexy? Tell me my mother would look sexy and I’d just say, “thank you”. I think your mother would also take it as a compliment and blush even. Why not your wife or sister that’s married and a mother now be sexy? Kindly explain, will you?
When Sexy Means Something More Than Just A Compliment?
Now here comes the important factor: it’s called consent. Anybody can tell anyone else that they look hot or attractive or handsome or beautiful. But beyond that, to act on one’s liking and urge for another, even to flirt, one should seek the consent of the other. Seeing or thinking that a woman is sexy is different. Wanting to have sex with her is an urge, a sexual urge. But civilised and the only form of ethical means to act on that is to seek consent from the woman, to ask and find out if she’d be interested, too.
Armin only called Kali sexy. As an atheist, he himself knows Kali is a fictional character. So why would he want to have sex with a fictional character? Next, did he imply that? Even if he did and Kali were real, isn’t it for Kali to say yes or no?
And if you think that his compliment for the Hindu Goddess comes from a place of him wanting to have sex with Kali without him saying so, are you projecting? Projection means thinking, rather assuming that another person has the same motives and intentions that we do. Is it because you don’t care about the concept of consent that it offends you?
Next, if you’re going to defend saying that you are only protecting your mother figure and women of your country for evil men, then again, is it because you think from a place of harm yourself? First, protect your women from the rapists of your nation. Also, remember that love or affection does not mean protection or control or oppression, and that consent is important.
No more rape. Put an end to this rape culture in this nation! Teach yourselves and your mates the importance of gender equality and respect in the first place.